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Friday, August 14, 2009

of waiting and extreme pain...

Since the last entry of my blog was a quick update on wifey’s water broke, I better give a quick update here. Else the three (yes you three readers of my blog) of you will think that we are still in the labour room and wifey is having a super mega mega long labour.

Anyway, wifey was putting Ah Fie to sleep when she noticed that her water has broke. We got ourselves ready and double and triple and four-ple and five-ple check if we got everything. Strangely, although this time we knew what we need to do, I was kinda nervous. I guess probably with this second time, I have some idea what I am in for compared to last time when everything seem new. I guess it’s something about ignorance is bliss kinda thing.

Called my mom over so that she can take care of Ah fie for the night, but ah fie was still not asleep yet. At this point we still not manage to successfully train her to sleep with other people (me included) except wifey. So I was worried if Ah Fie will have any problems. Fortunately Ah Fie managed to sleep and did not give any problems. Anyway, Ah Fie have been very matured about the whole process of her brother’s arrival. I will probably write something about it (but not now, lest I jinx it)

Anyway, my mom arrived and we proceeded to the hospital. Quite uneventful, still no contractions. The nurses got wifey prepped and we watched a bit of TV. Boring shows, some re-runs on AXN.
Anyway, but around 2.30am wifey decided that I better go back and get some sleep since we thought that there will not be much actions.
I kinda feel bad leaving her alone at the hospital and it’s the first time I am away from her for a very long long time. But I guess it’s the right thing, because I don’t think I can do much if I were there the whole night.

Next day, after dropping Ah fie at the baby sitter’s place, I went over to be with wifey. She had little sleep and was worried that she might not have strength for later. Dr Tan came and checked at around 9-ish and told me that baby should arrive around lunch time.
So we wait….and wait… by 11.30am the nurse put wifey on drip. But according to nurse, the something something (I forgot what is the correct term liao, but given the situation, I think it’s forgiveable laaa) is still small and have to wait longer.
As predicted the contraction comes when wifey was put on drip. Really breaks my heart to see wifey in pain. And to make it worse, wifey said that this time it’s more painful then ah fie….

So mah wait… and excruciating pain … and wait and extreme pain and wait…….. until around 1 pm++ Dr tan came and check again. Then he called me aside and told me that Ah Shawn still have not come down far enough yet and that something something opening still only 8cm. Since wait so long liao and worry about risk he say have to go for c-section. I went in and see wifey….Somehow I feel relieved because finally wifey’s suffering can stop and lesser risk to Ah Shawn.

So they pushed wifey to the OR and I have to wait and wait again… Felt like the longest time to wait because no one can tell me for certain how long she will be in there. Everyone I ask also cannot say. 1 Hour? 2 Hour? 4 Hour? But all give same answer -“Dunno”. Anyway after the longest wait they brought Ah Shawn out. The nurse told me Ah Shawn’s head shape was a bit big. “See la… no wonder cannot come down…” but I was too preoccupied to hear her… I picked him up for a while and took a photo of him. Wah… it’s like suddenly engulfed in a totally different feeling….. suddenly like a nice feeling engulf your whole being… I want to say like the good feeling after letting go a hard sai… but this is more than that… maybe you have to be a parent to feel it…

The next series of events are another round of waiting … waiting for the nursery to clean Ah Shawn … and waiting for them to push wifey out from the OR….

I get to see Ah Shawn again later and got to hold him again… and of course the photos…. Then much later they push wifey out from the OR… she still blur blur and stim stim like that so I let her rest… but she kept saying sorry…. I also dunno why… maybe the medication thing laaaa….

So back to now.. ah shawn is 2 weeks ++ liao and doing pretty well… Ah Fie have been very well behaved and I am proud of her… so I guess all in all it’s a good thing J